A Serious Revision~

To be a bit more blunt, there's nothing neutral about self centered. Your usage of the term neutrality is a meaningless buzz word that you're trying to use to justify why despite all the people saying that you're an egotistical jerk, you're really just too smart and committed to higher ideals that they don't understand. You're not clueless, you have just chosen to lodge your head far enough up your ass that you never have to actually look at yourself in the mirror.

I'll emphasize this: other people are the very best mirror. If everyone else in the world told me I was acting like a jerk, I wouldn't try to think up a reason that they're wrong. Being a jerk is defined by how other people feel about you. There's no objectivity to it. There's some room for misunderstanding, but even if you're well intentioned, if people say you're coming off as a jerk, that's on you and not them.

Being able to develop and maintain deep and satisfying interpersonal relationships is beyond crucial. The trick to managing it is that you have to be willing to set your own interests aside in favor of those of the people around you. Hope I wasn't too rough here, but I'm sure instead of taking offense you'll come back with more talk about being neutral and misunderstood and how you're just too smart for any of this to be true.

I am well meaning usually; but I try and balance what I say Blue~

If I admit to everything you say then its acceptance of being called a jerk, egotistical and esssentially using neutrality as a fake and non existant buffer zone so to speak; yet if I defend myself too much then I just rub off worse whereas doing and saying nothing leads people to question my stance on what you think about me. So really, I'm not sure about how to respond to that comment because there is no neutral ground or good outcome for all involved; how should I answer then?~

So. when do I directly, intentionally and openly bring my intelligence or others into direct question? I don't do that and I find that comment to not help me much other than saying I come off as being too superior sounding I really can't help how people read my posts and interpret the tone so honestly I'm lost as to how to do anything about that part~

I assume neutrality not because of intelligence or a mask to hide behind but because I want to avoid causing fights, not have to take sides and lose friends, and because I just want to get along~

And if the world says you're a loser, the world isn't right because they believe it, being a jerk was a personal discovery whereas IRL people I know say I'm one of the nicest people they've ever known, but that I talk too much and that even though I'm awkward and hard to understand at first I'm a dreamer at heart. But yes, if people say I'm ajerk it might very well be true; in fact I do consider myself to be a jerk, but its what you really are on the inside, not what people say you are, because not everyone knows you well enough to make a definite decision. This is the internet and its not easy for me to say what I want without coming out wrong or being offensive by accident~

What I'm trying to say is that my tone and feelings aren't easy for me to say without causing problems; if I took offense then would that actually help me? Then I just come off as a jerk who is attacking someone over words said on the internet, but while it would show a break from neutrality I can't see that part helping me when it leads to hostilities and breaks my personal code of avoiding conflicts and making friends and moving on, but reall I'm not sure if that post was meant to be humorous~ ^^"

[quote="TaiKamiya":13elpk26][quote="anegge":13elpk26]This thread.


No one may accuse me of "never showing restraint" ever again.


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Where is that quote from Anegge?~